Couples gone stale

Couples gone stale

Why the games between couples? You have all heard about the book that says men and women do not think or act the same. This is about the most important thing you can ever learn. Let the games begin.

Women love to be held and snuggled. They love to know they are appreciated and not taken for granted. It’s easy for women to be taken for granted because they are the ones who run the home and everybody in it. Women are the ones that create the sense of happiness and set the pace.

Life is so fast paced that you and your loved one in your relationship of being married or single gets lost in all the hustle and bustle of everyday living.

Romance and intimacy can sometimes be thrown away for a fast bang, slam thank you mam if you ever get a thank you. Stop! Life does not have to be like this. What happened to the romance and caring in your relationship?

If you have been married for years and feel like you are being taken for granted?

If you don’t feel any gentle or soft moments between you and your loved one, what is the use for staying in the relationship? Why not try to fix your relationship before you give away all that money to an attorney or whatever type of break you will have?

If you feel you can’t communicate anymore start at the beginning. What was the attraction for each other in the first place?

Hugs and kisses work

Surprise your loved one with a touch of the hand when least expected. When your loved one is leaving the home instead of saying goodbye from across the room walk over to that person and give him/her a hug. Really hug the person so you take him/her by surprise. Believe me that person will be surprised.

Try and make an attempt to touch and caress at every opportunity. When your special person starts to mimic your gestures, you know that both of you have been starved for affection and didn’t realize it. 

Linda Meckler author, copyright updated 2017 

Are the doctor's always right from book Food Wars

When my son was about eight years old he was ready for bed all sleepy and snuggly. Somehow, he sneaked into the refrigerator and ate a piece of pie. I thought he had gone crazy. He was running around the house and jumping off the furniture when minutes before he was half asleep on the living room floor.  

That morning I had purchased a five-pound bag of sugar. I took the full bag and flushed it down the toilet. Good Riddance.

“When I explained this to his doctor the doctor said, "There are no conclusive studies that prove sugar can cause children to become hyperactive."

I am just a parent. I have eyes and ears and know what I witnessed. 

When is the medical world going to wake up and realize that some of these children, which are paraded into their offices with attention deficit and hyperactivity, might not need medication? They need to have the sugar and caffeine removed from their daily diets. They need to be on some kind of balanced diet.

What do you think?

Linda Meckler, author taken from Food Wars updated 2017 drawings by Linda Meckler 

Food Wars parts of book

As  an adult, I find it hard to control what I eat. I recently attended a wonderful dinner at a friend’s house. The menu was not what I ordinarily eat because of the content of the ingredients.

But I was with friends. We were all sitting around the table laughing and talking and enjoying each other’s company; consequently, I ate too much of the wrong food.

Our children are put into this situation every day. They have less control over what they eat and we are the mature adult.

Simple things to remember:

Think before you eat.

Think what you are eating?

Who made this food?

Eat small portions.

Eat small portions every 2 – 3 hours.

When eating hamburgers, French fries, and coke. (Small size)

Exercise.

What Do We Do?

If there was an easy answer to this question I would be a millionaire. We need to stand back and take a look at this problem from a child’s perspective and then make changes.

Linda Meckler, author copyright 2017 updated from book Food Wars

Can Junk Food Be the Normal Food From my book Food Wars

Can healthy, normal food be the enemy. How did this happen?

The truth is that junk food costs are substantially higher than a nice home cooked meal - yet our kids won’t eat it and many times, not our spouses. It is also an easy choice when the parents have a busy schedule and don’t have time to cook or shop.

There are many battles around the dinner table when the mother can’t get her husband to eat vegetables or good food prepared by her let alone the kids. The kids take their cues from their parents.

When the parent or parents are suffering from low self-esteem or are over-weight the children will probably be overweight as well.  Eating is a way some adults who are stressed out can control their lives.

This is a huge problem that faces society and families as a whole, today. Every day over food, there is a battle starting with breakfast - lunch - dinner and - a snack.

I just recently listened to a woman speaking about obesity in our children. She made me think back to my childhood and the way I raised my two children. Today food choices and nutritional value are very different from when I was in charge of the food consumption. Today food is loaded with chemicals, additives, salt, sugar, and fat. When we eat this food where is the nutritional value?

Vitamins supplements are walking out the doors of the stores that sell them. It is now a multi-billion-dollar business. I know for myself I would try to heal myself of whatever ailment I have naturally than take a prescription or over the counter drug.

What does this have to do with our children and their food choices? Plenty if you ever watch your children eat and see what they select to put into their mouths. Food down the throat and then settles into their stomachs, it could make you sick.

Linda Meckler, Author copyright 2017 updated  cover and drawing by Linda Meckler

Thanksgiving 1972

Thanksgiving 1972 My family my husband Robert and son Scott 2 were living in Virginia Beach after my husband had re-enlisted in the Navy. He was stationed at Norfolk, VA on the carrier the Nimitz while it was being built. 

 It was Thanksgiving and we decided to go home to first pick up my mother Frieda Felberbaum and then onto Cleveland, Ohio to my sister Beverly. 

We had two cars at the time a new car and some old thing. For some reason we decided to take the older car on the trip. We went over to a friend’s house the day before we left, and a bunch of Navy guys worked on the fan belt and replaced and tightened it and the car was good to go. 

We packed up and left on our trip to Pennsylvania and then onto Ohio. It was cold and snowing. We were driving on the Pennsylvania Turnpike and suddenly, the radio went off and the heat went out. I said, “stop at the next gas station.” In those days gas stations had mechanics. But my hard-headed husband said No we’re fine. It was getting dark and Rob turned the car lights on and guess what they didn’t work. No heat and no lights and it’s dark and snowing. 

He pulled off the freeway, but it was on a connection which lead to another freeway very dangerous situation. He said, “stay here I saw a gas station not far I’ll bring a tow truck.” I put Scott on my lap and tried to keep him calm and warm and I didn’t know from one second to the next if a car was going to exit the off ramp and smash into us. No flashers and no lights. I don’t remember if he put up the hood of the car. I hope so. 

Then it happened lights big lights came up behind the car and I was terrified. I thought the car was going to ram us. But it was Robert to the rescue in the tow truck. They quickly hooked us up and took us to the gas station. I called my mother and told her we were going to be late, that we were fine I didn’t give her the details. Guess what the problem was the belt that all those guys had installed and tightened the day before had come loose.

 I don’t remember how long it took but when we were finally on the road again the snow had become a blizzard, but we made it to my mother’s safely. When we reached my mother, I was so glad to see her, and she told me how worried she was all night waiting for us to arrive. We stayed for about an hour and made our way to my sisters in Cleveland. 

When we finally reached my sisters house cold, tired, dirty and starving the turkey wasn’t done she didn’t know we would get there so early in the morning. We had to wait a couple of hours to eat. But it was worth it. I saw my sister and brother-in- law Dennis and my nephew Mark. We headed back to my mother’s in Erie stayed a couple of days and headed back on the road again.

 Thankfully we didn’t break down but when we reached Richmond we had to use the potty and needed gas, but I didn’t realize the cars lined up around the gas station was a mile long and the line to the bathroom longer. After finally reaching the potty I found out there was no gas. Thankfully, we barely made it back to our apartment in Virginia Beach. Maybe we stopped for gas along the way but I don’t remember. A Thanksgiving to remember. Linda Meckler, author copyright 2017